Any tips on curving the emotional issues tied with quitting smoking?

I am attempting to quit smoking, again, and using the patch as a nicotine replacement. I am finding that even with the patch the physical and emotional withdrawal symptoms are still quite strong and almost unbearable. I am experiencing alot of edgyness, irritablilty and anxiety to the point that is effecting my relationships with others. Do any past smokers have any tips or maybe even a timeline in which to expect these symptoms to subside?

Caffeine, Nicotine and THC, how to quit and in what order?

Please help. I’m addicted to caffeine, nicotine and THC. A match made in heaven right? I don’t look forward to GERD, cancer, anxiety, dying alone and dimentia. I do as little as possible, am all burpy more and more and concerned about my life getting shorter while developing a warped perspective.

I’m now in my thirties and in love with The One. She’s added a perspective I’ve been too alone and too stoned to see. I want to quit all three for myself (to live longer, enjoy it more and share it with her). Someday, a cup of coffee every now and then or a joint once or twice a year with old friends might be okay.

9 months ago and prior to being in love; every day I would intake a pack of smokes, coffee until 3 pm, stoned after work from 6 pm until bedtime, with more on weekends. We fell in love and I did not hide this. She is concerned and complains, legitemately and with fact.

I’ve managed to taper the coffee consumption a bit and reduced being stoned to just a few times a week as well as taken the paraphenalia out of the house. This is not good enough for either of us.

What is a good and reasonable way and timeline to quit? While my love would prefer cold turkey quiting all three as early as yesterday, I don’t think it’s reasonable and might be setting myself up for failure, dissappointment, crazyness and relapses. So, where should my energy be focused to acomplish these goals? What should I tackle first and how do I do it?
Good ideas people. Thank you to all three here plus a certain gal in TX who wrote a very thoughtful letter. I’m gonna go with smokes primarily with my new e-cig for cravings, reduce both weed and coffee during that time, then focus on stopping the weed while further reducing coffee, then coffee (all while remembering the cool guy I was before using). BTW – these addictions never got in the way of career or home, but certainly stressed the finances, stunted my personal growth and availability for a quality relationship. Everything in moderation, until your addicted, then none is best. Please log back in and vote for yourself or another. I can’t decide!